Of course, there is a selflessness in volunteering, giving,
sharing, etc. But rarely are our motives pure. These things make us feel good. In
fact, we sometimes do them to make us feel better about ourselves, to
mask how selfish we are in every other aspect of our lives. But it still feels
good and feeds my ego to get a pat on the back or a note of thanks for my good
deeds.
Part of my journey this Lent is learning how to give without
the get. If I don’t get anything for my giving—not one smile, acknowledgement,
thanks, or warm fuzzy feeling—hopefully I can learn how to give up my
selfishness, to turn my focus outward so much that I become self-less.
Today was a learning experience in this journey.
Dozens of senior adults gathered at our church this morning
to hear from professionals about how to deal with the challenges of aging, and
we had agreed to help with refreshments for today’s culinary care. We bought frozen
mini-quiches from Costco, popped them in the oven for 15 minutes, and set them
out in a line of refreshments.
It was easy, convenient, and required virtually no sacrifice
of time or money on our part. Hardly anyone realized that we had even brought
food. It didn’t really make me feel good to have done it, which bothered me.
But what bothered me even more was the fact that I realized
I craved the acknowledgement (or at least the good feeling I got) for giving
and serving. I had missed the point.
Lent is not about making ourselves feel good
for giving (or giving up something). We don’t perform "selfless" acts in order
to think more highly of ourselves. We do it to break ourselves of the desire for that kind of self-affirmation.
I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to perform a completely
selfless act. Is there even such a thing? I don't think so, but that doesn't diminish the good that can we can do when we try to focus less on self and more on others, even when we don't succeed.
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